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    To report child sexual exploitation, including online exploitation, contact the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children through their CyberTipline.Para denunciar la explotación sexual infantil, incluyendo la explotación en línea, comuníquese con el Centro Nacional para Niños Desaparecidos y Explotados a través de su CyberTipline.

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    The U.S. National Human Trafficking Hotline provides 24/7 support and resources for survivors of human trafficking. If you believe you may have information about a human trafficking situation, please call 1-888-373-7888La Línea Directa Nacional de Trata de Personas del EE. UU. esta disponible 24/7 para apoyo y recursos para los sobrevivientes de la trata de personas. Si usted cree que tiene información sobre una situación de trata de personas, llame al: 1-888-373-7888

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IT’S TIME TO GET

ABOUT PROTECTING KIDS ONLINE

Our kids are growing up in a digital world. Children and teens are on their phones and laptops nonstop. But all that screen time could be putting any child at risk. Online, it’s harder to tell if people are really who they say they are. It’s our job to help kids recognize who their real friends are – and aren’t.

REAL FRIENDS DON’T…

Real friends don’t pretend to be something they’re not. Real friends don’t make you feel uncomfortable. Real friends don’t ask for sexually explicit pictures. With everything going on today, you can’t be there for every click. To help kids navigate their time online, here’s how you can keep your family safe:

Raise the topic of online safety with your kids.

Start the conversation early & Engage often >

Educate yourself on the technology they’re using.

Know the platforms >

Act if something makes you or your child uncomfortable.

Shut it down & call the CyberTipline >

Learn all you can.

Stay involved & stay alert >

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aise the topic of online safety with your kids.

Chat with them often about what they’re doing online and what inappropriate online behavior looks like. Make it a normal part of everyday conversation. By starting early and staying open, you let kids know they can come to you if something feels wrong.

Find ideas to get the conversation going >
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DUCATE YOURSELF ON THE TECHNOLOGY THEY’RE USING.

Especially now, screen time for kids is increasing. It’s where they find school, friends, games, movies, jobs. It’s important to know the apps, games and social media your kids use. Have them show you how to use those platforms, so you understand them too.

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ct if something makes you or your child uncomfortable.

Check in with your kids often to see what they’re doing online. If you or your child don’t feel comfortable, close the computer, app or phone. Learn more or report an incident to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children’s (NCMEC) CyberTipline or call 1-800-843-5678.

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EARN ALL YOU CAN.

It pays to stay alert to what your kids are interested in, especially as their screen time increases. Keep up to date on new apps and games – and how kids are using them.

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GET THE CONVERSATION STARTED

You have a lot going on. We get it. But talking to your child about online safety can – and should – be a regular part of life. You want to create an open dialogue, so avoid sounding judgmental or threatening. And keep it on their age level. Here are some simple ways to bring up the topic.

KNOW THE PLATFORMS

From TikTok to Kik to Twitch, the digital world is full of new technology and it’s changing all the time. Learn about the most common apps, games and social media. Of course, ask your child to explain them to you too. You’ll find out a lot just seeing them in action. The more you know, the better you can protect your kids.

Here are some of the platforms your kids and teens are most active on:

Snapchat

Snapchat is an app that lets you easily talk with friends, view Live Stories from around the world, and explore news in Discover. With safety as a priority, Snapchat is deliberately built differently than traditional social media. Unlike other platforms, Snapchat doesn’t allow public comments, and their default settings mean a Snapchatter can only receive messages from people who they’ve added as a Friend. Checkout their extensive parent guide, community guidelines or subscribe to their in-app Safety Snapshot channel to learn more about the app and how to make sure your child is staying safe on Snapchat. You can also reach out to their safety team via their support site.

Instagram

This is a visual platform that allows users to share images, live stories as well as live video content. Instagram offers a comprehensive guide for parents of how to check their kids privacy settings

Roblox

Roblox has become a popular game among young users. In a multiplayer environment, Roblox allows users to create their own games, while also playing games created by others. Through the open chat feature, users can communicate with each other with chats being automatically monitored for inappropriate content or any reference to personal information. Parents and caregivers are encouraged to review the Kid Safety and Community Guidelines, as well as set additional safety settings and monitor interactions.

Messenger Kids

Intended for kids under the age of 13, Messenger Kids is a free app created by Facebook offering young users the opportunity to connect with friends and family in a more limited environment. Operated through the Facebook account of a parent or caregiver, all interactions and activities can be monitored and managed.

WhatsApp

WhatsApp is a mobile messaging app where users can exchange messages and pictures without having to pay messaging fees. This is messaging platform is popular internationally as it only requires Wi-Fi for use.

Kik

Kik is a smartphone messenger application that lets users send texts, pictures, GIFs, videos, sketches, and more all within the app. Kik uses your existing Wi-Fi connection or data plan to send and receive messages. Kik also provides a guide for parents on how to monitor their child’s usage and privacy.

TikTok

TikTok is a popular content sharing platform, mainly to consume and engage with short-form video content. The platform also encourages parents to enable controls to help your teen be safe and get the most out of their experience.

Xbox Live

Xbox has a live chat features that allows players to communicate online and meetup with other users to play. Xbox maker, Microsoft, also has family settings and parental controls that can be enabled on each individual users account. Read the steps in how to enable parental controls here.

PlayStation

This video game console also has a live chat feature within many of its games. PlayStation encourages parents and family managers to create separate accounts for their children and set unique preferences for each.

Twitch

Twitch is a live streaming platform, most popular in the gaming community, but is gaining popularity among mainstream users as well. People can communicate with others in chat rooms or through private messaging.

Discord

Discord is an instant messaging platform allowing users to communicate with each other with voice or video calls, text messaging, private messaging, as well as sharing files and media through private chats or through communities called “servers”. Discord has developed tools to provide users with the ability to control their settings and avoid unwanted experiences, as well as specific pages for helping your teen stay safe and how to talk about online safety.

Omegle

Omegle is a video-chatting website that randomly pairs users to have one-on-one conversations. While the platform offers community guidelines as well as moderated and unmoderated features, the unmoderated option is easily accessible by underage users, allowing them to access the live video and text chat options.

Yubo

Yubo is an increasingly popular app among teens used to meet friends and engage with others who have similar interests. Divided into two communities by age (13-17 years) and (18+ years), users can livestream and interact with one another. Yubo’s online Safety Center provides parents with answers to frequently asked questions and concerns.

RESOURCES

  • National Center for Missing and Exploited Children: NetSmartz
    • NetSmartz provides age-appropriate videos and activities to help teach children to be safer online with the goal of helping children become more aware of potential online risks and empowering them to help prevent victimization by making safter choices on – and offline.

  • Polaris
    • Understanding the realities of sex trafficking will help you not only keep your own children safe but to become an effective advocate for the safety of all children and families in your community.

  • Thorn
    • Learn more about online grooming and how to keep your child safe from the dangers that present themselves online.

  • Australia eSafety: Tips for staying safe online
    • The internet is a great way to socialize, learn, work, play and be entertained. But there are also risks. eSafety is adding new content everyday to help you stay safe online.

  • Australia eSafety: Gift Guide
    • Be smart, safe and secure when choosing tech gifts for your children and young people.

  • Canadian Centre for Child Protection
    • The Canadian Centre offers information about the ever-changing online interests of children, the potential risks they face, and the proactive strategies to help keep your child safe while online.

WHO WE ARE

The McCain Institute is working to make a difference in people’s lives across a range of critical areas including combatting human trafficking and exploitation. Online exploitation of children and teens is one entry point for human trafficking. That’s why we’re helping parents and caregivers recognize the risks and the steps to take to keep their kids safe. It’s part of our Combatting Human Trafficking program, aiming to educate, raise awareness and implement action-based solutions to end modern slavery in the U.S. and abroad.

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